What happens when mom gets to the point where she needs constant care? Does she go into assisted living, do the siblings take turns taking care of her, or do we hire in home care? That’s a question most everyone has to meet at one point in their lives. For some people, it’s an easy answer and for others it’s a debate between siblings.
When siblings make the choice to care for their parent(s), or grandparents, it’s much more than fixing breakfast and taking their loved one to a doctor’s appointment here and there. It’s 24 hours a day, seven days a week for some. For others, it’s 10 to 12 hours a day. And yet for others, it’s checking in throughout the day to make sure mom has taken her medication and put her eye drops in.
Regardless of the time spent taking care of your loved one, there has to be a schedule and a certain amount of rules surrounding mom’s care. For instance, who is taking care of financials? Who is responsible for getting weekly groceries? Who is taking the time to take your loved one to their doctor’s appointments? Who is making sure your loved one is getting their hair permed or cut? Who is cleaning the bathroom and the rest of the house? Take a moment to discuss these details before jumping into at home care.
For some siblings, taking care of their parent(s) is a privilege. Their parents have taken care of them their whole lives and it’s time for them to reciprocate. For others, it’s more of a burden. Whatever the case may be, it’s time to be clear of who is responsible for the daily tasks your loved one needs. If it’s too much for one person or too much for four siblings, then turning to Assisted Living or Memory Care is the right choice. They have care and assistance when taking care of your loved one is more than siblings can handle on their own.
It may not be an easy choice, but perhaps it is the best choice for your family. Cherished Transitions has trusted RN’s that have years of experience in guiding families through the process of finding assisted living communities. We want the best care for your loved one and are determined to help families find the right fit for their family member.